The Power of Being 'Too Much' — Why Your Intensity Is Your Superpower
The Label That Almost Broke Me
Growing up as a first-gen Latina, I heard it constantly. Eres demasiado. Too loud. Too emotional. Too ambitious for someone “like me.” Every time I raised my hand in class, every time I dreamed bigger than my zip code allowed, someone was there to remind me that I was taking up too much space.
And for years, I believed them. I shrunk myself. I lowered my voice. I made myself palatable. I traded my fire for approval, and let me tell you — approval is the most expensive thing you’ll ever buy, because the currency is your authenticity.
The Turning Point
The shift happened when I was sitting in a conference room at Microsoft, surrounded by people who had never been told they were “too much.” They spoke up freely. They took up space unapologetically. And I realized: the problem was never my intensity. The problem was that I was performing smallness in a world that rewards bigness.
That day, I decided to stop apologizing for the very things that made me powerful:
- My passion? That’s what moves rooms when I speak
- My ambition? That’s what built Empowermenté from nothing
- My emotions? That’s what connects me to every woman I coach
- My volume? That’s what makes sure first-gen voices are heard
What “Too Much” Really Means
Here’s what I’ve learned after years of coaching hundreds of Latinas and first-gen women: when someone tells you you’re “too much,” what they’re really saying is that you make them uncomfortable because you refuse to be small.
“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.” — Marianne Williamson
The women who change the world have always been “too much.” Too loud for the status quo. Too ambitious for the gatekeepers. Too passionate to accept mediocrity.
Reclaiming Your Intensity
If you’re reading this and you’ve spent years dimming your light, here’s your permission slip (not that you need one):
1. Stop editing yourself for comfort
The right rooms will celebrate your energy, not police it. If you have to shrink to fit, it’s not your room.
2. Surround yourself with other “too much” women
This is exactly why I built the Next Level Latina Circle — because when ambitious women come together, magic happens. You stop feeling like an anomaly and start feeling like a movement.
3. Channel your intensity into impact
Your fire isn’t a flaw — it’s fuel. Use it to build, to speak, to create, to lead. The world doesn’t need another quiet, agreeable version of you. It needs the real you, at full volume.
The Truth Nobody Tells You
The most successful women I know — the speakers, the founders, the leaders — they were all told they were too much at some point. Every. Single. One. The difference? They chose to believe in their intensity instead of other people’s discomfort.
So the next time someone tells you you’re too much, smile and say: “No, you’re just not enough for what I bring.”
You are not too much. You are exactly enough. And the world is waiting for you to stop apologizing and start showing up as the full, fierce, unapologetic version of yourself.
Siempre pa’lante, Gina ✨
